Once we meet the one you really like, we should double down on the meaning that we get from these others areas of our life.

Only in this way, we can go into that situation as someone's equal, knowing that if it doesn't work out, I'm good, I get legs under the table, I have a big rich life, I have those to fall back on. I'm just gonna bring you my best, show you this wonderful life I've created. And that's not enough for you or if you don't give me enough, I don't need this.

This is called 'Fuck you' confidence, which you gonna have FU confidence to say 'no, thank you, I'm good.' because you have so many other things in your life that give you meaning such as love, richness and importance. You gonna to say to yourself 'I don't need that person.'

The real confidence isn't the ability to say no to things you don't want. It is the ability to say no to things you do want when they're not right for you