And it took me a really long time to figure out , yeah, love is just love, one of the last things that happened between me and my father the last time my saw him, he came over and he gave me this really awkward side hug and he said to me, um, i love u u know that? And i said i do that has never been the issue毋庸置疑. And i always knew my father loved me , of course i knew he loved me, and i don't think my dad did anything that he did from a lack of love and i think we do love a real disservice when we make it about control and power and changing people and that's not what it is. U love people u give them that for free.